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Thursday, March 18, 2010

Changes

As many of you know already, our life has gone through some pretty amazing changes this week. It all started on Tuesday afternoon at 1:00 when a social worker from Heart to Heart adoption agency called us. She let us know that there was a situation where a birth mother with a 3 week old baby boy was being flown in and they wanted to know if we were fine with them showing her our profile. She explained all the details and we didn't hesitate to have our profile shown.

At that point we couldn't help but be excited, but we knew we were not the only ones being shown so we were careful not to get our hopes up too high.

Then at 3:00 we got THE phone call. The social worker said that the birth mother thought we were amazing (shocking). She asked us how soon we could be in Salt Lake prepared for a meeting with the birth mother and a possible 7-14 day stay in Utah. We told them we would be there by 7:00.

That is where the whirlwind started. It is difficult to pack for a 2 week trip, but add to that that you have 45 minutes to do it and you're facing the possibility of having a new baby with you and it is ridiculous. We were not prepared with baby supplies, but thanks to our good friend Courtney we were able to borrow most of the things we would need to survive with a newborn baby boy.

We were on the road by 4:00. We made a lot of phone calls and asked for a lot of prayers. (thank you everyone for your prayers.) We were as excited as we could let ourselves be, but we knew that it was all still just a possibility. Madeline was very excited, she summed up our emotions by saying, "Mom, Dad, we have been waiting for this for years!" We made it to the agency just in time.

We met there with the social workers and they told us some more about the situation. The birth mother, from here on we will refer to her as K, wanted some more time with the baby and asked us to wait until 8:30 and meet them at her hotel. At this point the social worker informed us that we would probably be getting the baby that evening. We had thought it would probably be the next day, so we used the time to go shopping for the things we still needed.

At 8:30 we arrived at the hotel and waited in the lobby while the social workers met with K and the baby. We were very entertained by the 5 year old son of the social worker, who by the way was great to have there to break the tension. About 15 minutes later we were brought in to meet with K.

As much as we had worried about and been intimidated by the meeting, it was one of the most amazing moments of our lives. We walked in to see a beautiful young mother with a sweet little baby boy. No matter how much you prepare for that moment, it will always take your breath away. K got up and hugged us both and said hi to Madeline. After hugging Katy she put the baby in her arms. We talked for a while about the pregnancy and labor and how good of a baby he was. She told Madeline how glad she was that he would have a big sister. We talked for about 15 minutes and a social worker said that it was time.

We gave her the baby to say goodbye, and that was the hardest moment. To see her love for him and how hard this moment was for her was heartbreaking. She hugged him and kissed him. She told him how much she loved him and then put him in Katy's arms. It was painful to see that one of the most wonderful moments in our life came at such a great sacrifice to K. She is an amazing person and we will always be grateful to her for the gift that she gave us. The trust she has that we will love him and give him a wonderful life is a great honor and we will strive to be worthy of that trust. Thank you K, from the bottom of our hearts.

We hugged and left the room. It was surreal walking down the hall with our new baby boy. We had hoped and dreamed of this moment for years and could not believe that the moment had finally come. We sat down to sign all the paper work with the social workers and as we were filling them out they asked what we would like to name him. We decided on Max. It just seemed to fit.

That night we went to our hotel. At about midnight we fed him and he slept the whole night. But we didn't, we were up all night talking about how amazing it was that our dream had come true. He is such a sweet baby and he fits into our family like he was always there. Madeline loves him and she is adjusting to life with a baby very well.

We are so grateful for the blessing we have received through the miracle of adoption. Thank you everyone for your prayers and support throughout this process. The biggest thanks of all goes to K for the gift that we could never hope to repay. You will always have our prayers and our love.

17 comments:

Cammi said...

We are so, so happy for your family. We know how long you have waited for this miracle, and it has finally come. Enjoy your little boy :)

-The Hawkers

Teesa69 said...

Thank you for sharing the story..And a BIG thank you to K for her gift of a lifetime! I am crying such tears of joy for your family I am at a loss for words..

Congrats again!!

Audrey said...

There just aren't words for how happy I am for you--my prayers and thanks go to K as well. Love you all so much!

Rowena said...

Wow, Missy told me last night and I am so happy for you. Life is good isn't it?

Cozzens Family said...

I just cried when I read your story. I am SO VERY happy for you guys! Max is adorable! He is so lucky to have a great birth mother and great parents like you guys! What a precious experience you are about to embark on with little Max! :)

Jim and Diane Jaspersen said...

OH!! This made me cry!! I"m so happy for you guys! I'd been praying that things would work out and you could adopt a baby!! He's such a cute little thing!!
Thanks for sharing the story!! Enjoy the new baby!!

Katie said...

This left tears in my eyes. I am so happy and thankful for wonderful people like K. He is a beautiful baby!! He is lucky to have parents that will love him and a great big sister. He knows undconditional love K gave him a home. Congrats you guys. A truly amazing story!!

Mary Lynn said...

So happy for you guys!!

Adoption said...

Katy & Kendall, I LOVE this!!!! It sounds so much like our story with our son! :) No doubt that little Max is, and was always meant to be, your son! Congratulations!
(P.S. Are you guys still in Utah then? Were you already going through Heart to Heart or LDSFS? Just curious.)

Sharon said...

Seriously?! Oh yay!!! I'm so excited for you guys! I get to move you from the hoping to adopt column on my blog to the families brought together through adoption. How wonderful and what an amazing story! Max is a doll! Congrats!

Kara said...

What a beautiful, beautiful story! Congratulations to all of you and enjoy this special time. I'm just SO SO SO happy for you!!!

lhhadley said...

Wow, that is crazy and awesome! We are so excited for you guys! Congrats!!

Twice the blessing, The Day in the life of living with twins said...

beautiful....absolutely beautiful!!! Couldn't be happier for you, and your gift from God and K......Congrats!!!!!

Josephine said...

I say this with tears in my eyes...Congratulations to your new family of four!

Courtney said...

HI guys. I am so happy for you. I am so grateful for your friendship and for your sharing your story. I understand so well what you have gone through and its funny how hard I cired when reading this even though I have my own adoption stories. K is an amazing person and I am so grateful she made that sacrafice and for blessing you with this baby. Cant wait to meet him.

Scott Poole said...

Athena kept telling me I needed to see Max on here. He really is a beautiful boy. K couldn't have had her prayers answered any better than you guys. I know you have a lot of family and friends to help you out, but please make sure we are on your list too. If you need anything, please let us know. Congratulations!

Becky T said...

Kendall & Katy,

I know this will seem like a random comment, but I got word from my mom about your amazing little miracle and then I came across your blog today. Your story literally has me in tears. What a blessing adoption is! I have had many friends who have adopted and each and every time, I am blown away by the pure love these birth moms have for these babies. I am so happy for your family! And incidentally, we have had a good friend whose baby also had piloric stenosis and your experience sounds almost exactly like hers. I hope little Max is all better and you guys can be home in your own home soon!

So, congratulations again. I am truly happy for your family. And it's so fun to see pictures of your family since I am very rarely in Idaho anymore. Much love to you all!

Becky (Andersen) Thalgott